Protected: For Sex and love :)
Posted on 5th March 2006 by TaggyIm starting again to write something on being provoked . If people would remember mypost on vegetarianVsNon vegetarian. Only this time i have a very firm idea of wha tiam thinking and what iam about to write on .
It was whether sex an dlove could be separated as unique entities otr may be iam not exactly correct like this probably .
Sex being a subset of Love. yeah probably iam right.Sex is considered righteous when you are in love , that way you tell ur companion u love that person more maybe thats why its called”making love“.While you can still have sex while not being in love.What do you call this ! LUST i guess.
Thers a small transcript that i have with names changed of course
gir l: we had this discussion the other day da, boy , my friend and her friends.. this question caboy up.. if, after marriage, ur husband coboys and tells u he had sex with a female when he was out on a long business trip, which he really dint intend to, but is sorry abt it, how would u react guess wat i saiD?
boy: ;) im not guessin neeye sollu
4:02 PM forgive him ;) ;)
girl: i would be upse, will makje a scene for a min, but then, the question i’d ask him would be.. “did u use condoms?”
boy: or kick him out ;)
girl: wats there to forgive him ya?
boy: deivame
boy :o
:P
girl: he dint do aythin wrong
4:03 PM boy: really !
girl: sex ius a very physical phenoboynon
boy: yes it is !
but does that boyan u go arnd get attracted to as many as u want ?
girl: has nothin to do with the heart da really
but the real joy and pleasure only comnes in the arms of the one u love
4:04 PM partly, its m mistake also na
boy: :D im completely againts what u said
girl: if i had given him enough, why would he go for soboything or soboyone else honey?
boy: :P thers soboythin abt faithfullness ! too i believe
girl: ofcourse, i also expect my guy to react the same way if i go tell him a similar thing later :P
4:05 PM true u can be faityhful only when u r satisfied
boy: oh yeah ! u reallyboy an if u didnthav enuf fun with ur husb ! u wud turn to soboyother man :O
It talks about a topic thats surely hitting everyone.I live in hostel and i see people flirt along so well. Commitment is a word that has been more talked about and less apllied atleast to me. This girl here talks about giving freedom to her man by letting him an afair as she is in need of just love.
I really did get tornfor a second.For it was her opinion and i had to respect her for it while the same time i never knew there could be an alternative relationship in love.She believes men are afraid of commitment and thats why they run away from relationships, this is her lesson out of life.But in that case she is making a big assumption “the men she fell in love with are the only breeds available on this planet ” which is obviously wrong.As wind and climates differ so do people and putting down an observation like this was unfair.
My escapades with love have never taken off “iam eternally single” but wait i do understand what it means to be committed.I realise its a special bond that you make with an person, and something you would never make with another entity in this world.
Some people yes they try to be bold enough and may be call a different life style when they hookup their marriages and look for fun outside. Heard of “KEY PARTIES” Trust me when iam saying this i havebeen to one. Lights off and every woman is an objec oflust you onlyhave to pray youpick the best.
Again iam talking about something i always loved to talk.
Heardof this story a girl keeps changing her boy friend and SEX as people call it is no big deal. They are just physical attractions. Next a Prostitute at work. Both the species i mentioned exist and we know it.
Asked a question “Given an oppurtunity to spend a day with whom woud you choose “
A prostitue of a the “modernistic bold gal”
My answer would be an immediate. “prostitite”.i always had a lot of respect for them.The world calls some sluts and whore.I always believed not they but the “modernistic bold gal are the real sluts.
Yes i perfectly understand what iam saying now is not a very correct statement, who said iam always right ,these are just my opinions.Atleast the prostitutes do what they are doing for their livelyhood, what do u think makes these gals go the wat they are.
And ys it seems iam being biased towards women as such by not counting the men . While this society has many names for different women. What do you call man who keeps changing his sexual partners ????
Sorry i dont know a word !! u tell me one.
What i really felt bad about was when a girl comes up to me and says its all right to have sex outside marriage as for as you people are in love.
I must accept ,im stumped no words really and these words are just my outlet they may be irrelevant at times, incoherent most places but im sure you would have feltthe currents under them. Everyone has their own ideals but that doesnt change the good and the bad , the beautiful and the ugly .Good an dthe bad are relative in an absolute sense .
I know i must have confused a lot. But trust me , i myself am .What has happened to those long preserved values that i was always taught .Has the current generation , lost it ? or just that they found something better . Iam not wrong for sure.Just that iam unable to prove it. May be iam bit bythe moder day cultures akka american syndrome.
–Taggy
PS:well i definitely have to write this , i was broughtup saying this “While it migh take decades to build something great or good it takes less than seocnd ,just an evil thought to destroy it “
For we have all been lucky enough to be born and brought uo in such a value system .Let not your weakness for ordinary gifts and freebies that life throws atyou , make youblind from the treasures of being in love and making love :) and yes there is somethingabout being faithfull that will make you proud and not just you , the girl sitting right next to you as an old man surely be for you were all hers and she was all yours since eternity ? aint it ?
again ! i am not seerting myself just a thought that ifelt about u tell me yours :) ?
Taggy—
posted on March 5th 2006Its a very difficult terrain that you are trying to walk thyagu . Sex and choices is a completely personal issue.You are comletely against what the gal feels may be because of the value system you believe in and all chances she believs in something else.
But there is a feeling may be the gal was trying to be a bit bold than what she really was or may be the gal had goten sick of men who had come in her life and hence such distortions. May be when she meets some nice guy ,her opinions will change.You ask my opinion i hope she does change her opinion . you kow why iguess.
and again see my reply comes less than 10 min you post.
Give me a treat when you come to chennai .U were talkin abtlake la in iitm campus vaa rendu perum polam he he
good one again thyagu , may be you receive lots of bricks for such words in ur post but dont stop writing.Your thots are your own and gives a very nice insight in to the guy ihave seen growing up since hildhood.
posted on March 5th 2006I dont think anyone has to change . For i really believe she is not one bit of the image that you get when u read the small transcript da she is a very righteius person indeed.
Im not saying anything here :)
Unaku treat aa ?
vaa vaa da :) bidu ethirla bajji vaangi thaaren: ha ha ha :D dibbi uand ur jokes;) cheeeeeeee
